21 May 2014

Serving Memories


I don't always have time to read magazines. I usually collect a pile until I have a small block of time to sit down and peruse them. This past weekend I finally sat down with my Parade magazines. The Miracle in My Mother's Pudding by Sarah DiGregorio (featured in the May 11, 2014 Mothers Day edition of Parade) really stuck with me. Especially the way Sarah ended the article.
"I was 21 when my mother died, and every year that passes without her is like a map of a foreign country, unfurling with new, unexpected ways to miss her, new ways that she is gone, still gone. But when I make this pudding, and all the other dishes she left behind, we are together in a way that is not a metaphor. A recipe is a magic trick: It makes the past live."
Isn't that brilliant? My mama is very healthy and well but I did lose my dad three years ago. I can totally relate to her describing life without a parent like a map. Something foreign and unknown that unfurls. I also love what she said about recipes being like magic. This article has me thinking that this summer, I might ask my stepmother to let me go through some of my dad's old papers. Maybe, just maybe, I'll find the recipe for that delicious pie he used to make on special occasions when I was a kid. Wouldn't that be sweet?

Do you have a recipe that helps you connect to someone you've lost?

Please visit parade.condenast.com to read The Miracle in My Mother's Pudding by Sarah DiGregorio in it's entirety.

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  1. What a wonderful way to stay connected with a loved one who's gone. I like to let my magazines pile up so I can read them in the bath.

    Rowena @ rolala loves

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    1. Now that sounds like a splendid idea. I must remember that.

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  2. I hope you find the recipe! What a treasure that would be!

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  3. Nice to stay connected with a favorite shared recipe.

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  4. Quite a rich picture in that second paragraph. My people/family-- including our close friends -- are pure graces from God Almighty. I can understand the pain one would feel loosing those who are dear to them. Saying a prayer for you to find that recipe, Juju. xo

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    1. Thank you Ganise. :) You're such a sweet soul.

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  5. That is a great way to stay connected and that was a wonderful article--thank you for sharing!

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  6. I did read that article and loved it...I think you should make that pie!

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    1. So funny that you say that, 'cause I thought of you. :)

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  7. Aww that is lovely! A great way to feel connected. I hope you find the recipe you're looking for!

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  8. Lovely & so true! I hope you find rich treasures among your dad's things. Blessings, Juju!

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  9. Awe! I hope you find that recipe! :)
    ~Liz

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  10. Wow that is are really beautiful quote. What a wonderful blessing that would be to find your dad's recipe. Thanks for sharing this!

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  11. What a wonderful point. I know it's true because my husband, whose mother passed away two years ago, always tries to recreate her dishes. Unfortunately, he doesn't get them right, as he says to me, and that generally leads to more missing her. Sigh..

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    1. Awwww boooo. Does he work of memory or recipes? *hugs*

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  12. Awww…that's lovely. I will have to check that article out. I hope you find the recipe! :)

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  13. Wonderful quote, thank you for sharing it. I hope you find the receipe. I don't have a particular receipe but do tend to make the foods I know my dad would have liked as a reminder of him on occasions like Fathers Day.

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    1. Awww I love that. On my dad's birthday, I always go to Red Lobster. It was his favorite restaurant. :)

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  14. Awwww this is very sweet and the article sounds like a touching read. I hope you find this pie recipe! :D

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  15. What a wonderful quote... I hope you find the recipe! It's always touching to read a recipe written by the hand of someone who left us. I have a fudge recipe written by my stepdad's mother and that I keep in one of my cookbooks. It always makes me smile when I see it.

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    1. Yes. Absolutely. Handwritten ones are so special. I have a few from my husband's grandmother (who has been gone 4 years) and I was just thinking I need to dig them out and frame them.

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  16. I do like that quote. I hope you find the recipe!

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  17. If you find the recipe do share... I like pie too. :-)
    Great message.

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    1. Good idea! I will. Thank you for suggesting it. :)

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  18. My mom passed away when I was 16 and I never really thought about food connecting me to her as she wasn't really a big cook but as an adult I find myself searching for quirky foods that no one has seem to heard of that were a staple of my childhood - like banana pudding with nilla wafers and cupcakes. I have to go to Magnolia Bakery for both whenever I visit NY because they make them just like she did and it brings me right back and comforts me.

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    1. Awww that's awesome. I love that.

      That btw sounds REALLY good.

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  19. I sadly don't have recipes, but I do associate smells with my nana and grandpa. For some reason Dial soap (the orange non-fancy kind) reminds me of playing in the garden there...probably because I would always end up covered in mud and needing said soap haha

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    1. Awww that's so sweet. I always think of my paternal grandmother (who is alive but doesn't remember me due to dementia) when I smell Coty powder. She always smelled like powder when I hugged her.

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    2. Smell and taste are such powerful senses.

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  20. Love this too...and I think that food is just one example of a way memories can live on. Substitute almost any hobby or activity and its the same.

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    1. Not the same per say but definitely close. I think smell is part of what makes food so magical.

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  21. how lovely. I have many recipes that remind of loved ones that were great cooks, including my dad.

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    1. Awwww that's awesome. Did you dad cook or was it more like his favorite dishes?

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  22. I love that excerpt from the book! So beautifully written and so true how recipes can keep the past alive. I do hope you find your father's pie recipe.

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  23. I saw that article as well and loved it!

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    1. Right? I'm going to be on the look out for her writing now.

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  24. This was so beautiful. I lost my dad in 2007. There are things I've kept that connect me to him. I spend so much time with my mom now.
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

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    1. *hug* In the beginning of the article, she talks about waiting for the phone to ring. That happened to me for so long. I kept forgetting I couldn't call him and update him or hear his voice.

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  25. Awww, this is so sweet! I hope you find that pie recipe!

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  26. The quote is so touching, someday we'll remember them by doing the things we used to do together... but, I find it hard to admit this.

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  27. What a gorgeous quote. I think it illustrates how loss affects us in our daily life very well. Thanks for sharing it with us!

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  28. lovely. and what a gorgeous photo.
    when I make biscuits I always recall my Granny teaching me how to knead the dough.

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    1. How lovely. I bet you make some amazing biscuits.

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  29. Hat passage is so lovely it makes me catch my breath. She writes what I suspect I will feel as well, every day an uncharted territory. I'm not sure how it is we're supposed to separate from our parents after a life of connection. I pray for the grace required when it is time to do so.

    As for recipes, I also find that certain scents hold tremendous memories. Many things can be a trigger to the person(s) we love. Even my mother's unique handwriting sparks my love for her.

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    1. Yes. Exactly. It's a separation you never get good at.

      True and I SO agree on the power of scent. It's amazing how powerful scent is.

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  30. very beautiful passage. i also like the part about a recipe being magic. it really is. i'm sorry for the loss of your dad. i've never lost someone close to me, so i can't personally relate. i hope you do find the pie recipe!

    beautiful post.

    -amber
    http://ferociousmagic.com

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  31. What a beautiful passage, thank you for sharing. I think it's a wonderful way to keep a loved one's memory alive, to do something you used to do together like making a recipe. I hope you find your dad's pie recipe! :-)

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  32. Wow, I just love that quote. I didn't know you lost your dad recently, Juju. I'm so sorry to hear. You should definitely find that pie recipe :) xo

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  33. I don't have one that reminds me of a lost one. But I find every recipe that I make has touches from the people I love. The little secrets and bits of advice. It keeps me connected to those I love and I know I'll appreciate it even more as time goes by.

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    1. I love that about shared recipes. The bits and pieces it carries of that person. Great point!

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